Thursday, November 27, 2008

Happy Thanksgiving

First let me say that I hope everyone had a truly enjoyable day. And that you had a chance to come together today with friends and family alike. And that your table was overflowing with food and the love and joy of the day was abundant.

And let me say a big THANK YOU to those that gave up their holiday to work. Whether it was for a retail store or a critical job in your community or serving your country in a far off land, I truly hope that you found some joy in the day. My hat goes off to all those, like myself, that sacrifice their day with their loved ones to perform their jobs. I can understand and appreciate the sacrifices that you make to keep this country running.

And for our service men and women that are serving in a far off land, I pray that today you are safe, and that you will be home with your families soon. Thank you for all the sacrifices that you endure daily so that you can protect my freedoms.


Saturday, November 22, 2008

The Best Mental Vacation Yet

Today is yet another opportunity for me to run away in my mind. And this is the best one yet for me. I am drifting far off into my fantasies. In my fondest childhood fantasies, I am a princess living in a beautiful castle. I wear the most spectacular gowns and have long flowing hair. I wear only the finest of gems and jewelry. And the most handsome men in the land pursue me for marriage.

Wow, what a fantasy land that is. I will still run away in my mind today. As I remember the splendid beauty of the castles of France. I still can vividly see the castles that I toured. The images are burned into my mind. And these are the types of images that I want to stay. As I lazily sauntered through the rooms, it almost felt like I was at home. It felt as if I belonged here. I remember visiting a church in Bescanson, France, and if I close my eyes if feels as if I am still there. It was Easter time. and the church was filled with the most fragrant flowers. And as I stood before the alter, all I saw was gold. It seemed as if the entire church was made from gold. I had never seen so much beauty in my life.

So, forgive me today if I seem lost in never, never land. And if it seems as though I never want to return to my life here in Michigan. But just for today I want to remember the fondest of my childhood memories. So, for today I am a princess living in a castle, waiting for her handsome prince to take her away to a land far away.

Thursday, November 20, 2008

Home Sick

Today I am home sick from work. I have been struggling for a few weeks now. It started out innocently enough. Just burning eyes and nose, sneezing and a nose that had a river running out of it. Now, I am hacking up the icky stuff. The kind of stuff that makes mom's say EWWWW. And it feels like it will never end.

So, hopefully today, after dropping my husband and son off at work, I might be able to get some much needed sleep. And since the kids have 1/2 days at school today, and I don't have to take the younger kids to the sitters. I might be able to finally get more than just a few hours of sleep. And that right now is what I need so badly......sleep. And sleep is the great healer. It allows your body to renew itself. You wake up feeling refreshed and ready to take on the world. But, when you don't get enough sleep, you suffer and your body begins to suffer. That is why doctors always tell you to get plenty of sleep when you are sick. Because that is when your body is able to repair itself.

For all the moms who are feeling just plain icky today, take the day off for your health. Stay in bed, put your favorite movie in the DVD player, and just rest. You need your rest now more than ever. Lets not forget that cold and flu season is upon us, and soon enough we will be wiping runny noses, and soothing our sick husbands and children. So, I am declaring that today is take care of MOM day.

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Tough Love

I know I am going to take a lot of criticism for this post because of the nature of it. But I have never shied away from being honest about the happenings in my life, and I am not about to start now.

Last week was another difficult week in my life. We had to make the very hard decision to place my 15 yr old nephew in foster care. It was becoming more and more obvious that he no longer wanted to reside with us. His refusal to abide by our rules, threatening behavior towards our younger children in the house, using kitchen knives to destroy property in our house all were warning signs. The most troublesome was the threatening statements made to the youngest members of my household. Now call me crazy, but my number one priority is to protect my young children that can't protect themselves.

So, when his mother petitioned the court for termination of our guardianship, we welcomed it with open arms. We were more than willing to hand him over to his mother. But, unfortunately things did not go as planned. The weekend before the hearing, his mother was arrested for DUI. And when the time came for the hearing, she was still in jail. So, at the court when asked by the judge where the petitioner was, we told the truth. Then we stated that we were still wishing to terminate our guardianship. Then the judge asked for a reason why we wanted to end the guardianship, we told him the truth. And he was somewhat understanding. He then asked my nephew if he wanted to end the guardianship his reply was "Yes". The judge then made the ruling that he was to be turned over to the foster care system. And so it was done. The same day as the hearing, he left our care.

The next day when his mother was released from jail. She called my husband and asked about how the hearing went. When he told her, she was upset. She was under the impression that he would ask for another date for the hearing. I guess she was thinking that she would still be awarded custody of her son. But, she forgot that the two children that were living with her, were now in foster care also. And that she is facing child abandonment charges on top of the DUI.

And I have to mention the incredible peace and quiet that has taken over my house. Gone are the bickering, yelling, screaming and threats of violence. And it has been replaced by the laughter of the children. And we were able to turn the extra space into a play area for our kids. The house still feels cramped, but, now it has a feel like a home. The house is not as messy and requires less cleaning. And that I must admit is nice.

Now the question is, where do we go from here. Well the answer is will still continue to be hectic. For life with 6 kids is just as crazy as having 7 kids. There are still school functions, and doctor appointments, and reminders that the rules have to be followed. Some things never change.

Do we miss our nephew.....the answer is yes. I can only hope that where ever he is at....that he is finding some joy in his life. And perhaps working to make his life a better one.

Saturday, November 8, 2008

Packed House Again

For the first time in months, my house is overflowing with kids. I kinda don't mind this in the warmer months of the year. But, this time it is cold and rainy outside. And we all know what that means.....stuck in the house. The kids will not be going outside to play. Oh what a joy it is. There is nothing like having 8 kids stuck in a house. I can once again picture kids swinging from ceiling fans and in one word, basically destroying my house.

I reminded my husband last night after he returned home with all the kids, about how indifferent I was about having all the kids in my house. He was of course confused at first. But, then I reminded him of my obligation to work today. To which he replied " You mean I am here all by myself with all these kids? " To which I said " Yup, it's finally payback time for you. Payback for all the times you brought the kids home and dumped them on me. So enjoy the day with your nieces and nephews. "

I only hope that my house is as nice and neat when I return home tonight, as it is now. We have put a lot of hours in lately to really cleaning house. And while it is not perfect.... It still looks a heck of a lot better than it did. But, one thing is for sure, I am not cleaning any messes up tonight. That job will belong to the man who brought the kids into our home, my beloved husband.

Thursday, November 6, 2008

Fall In Michigan

The sky is alive with colors again. I love the way the it looks like the sky has been touched by the hand of God. As if he dipped a brush in paint and just wiped it over the trees. And this year fall has seemed to last much longer than usual. Not that I am complaining. I mean I love the sound of the leaves crunching under my feet when I walk. And the vibrant colors that dot the landscape. But, alas, fall will be gone all too soon, only to be replaced with colder temperatures and snow. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy the snow, I just can't stand the cold weather. So, the warmer than usual weather that we have been enjoying has been so welcome. I just wish it could stay like this all year long.

Monday, November 3, 2008

Past Due For A Mental Vacation

I am seriously past due for a mental vacation. This time I think I am gonna head off to Amsterdam. I hear that it is a spectacular city. One filled with endless adventures. I truly can't wait to be intoxicated by the sweet smell of the tulips.

So join with me in creating a quiet environment. Turn off the tv, pour a cup of coffee, and sit the heck down somewhere. This is a time out for you. Close your eyes and drift off to beautiful Amsterdam.